It’s been 4 months since my last post…I might as well consider myself (and this blog) extinct like the dinosaurs, right? But that’s not my style…okay it’s my style to go off radar but it’s also my style to reappear with no notice whatsoever and guess what?
No, I’m not back from rehab, Sillies, I’m back here on “Coming at you Live from the C-Sweet” to let you know I’m still alive and kicking and what I’ve been up to over the last 4 months.
The main thing is that I did go away (no, NOT to rehab!) to a small business advisory certification training and I’ve officially launched my new consulting practice “C Sweet Solutions”….Solutions for the C-Suite. So I’ve spent the rest of the time getting busy networking, prospecting, doing business development type stuff and all the rest.
Right now I’m co-branding my services with the organization that sponsored by training and certification…until I work up to a new website for C Sweet Solutions.
But that business talk isn’t way you find me so entertaining and followed this blog, etc. so of course I have something else to tell you about, and that is…
I was thinking about my relationship with my loving mother and how I think I accepted the fact that she was (generally) always right about stuff she told me growing up and so I decided to tell you about some of the things my mom told me that I’m glad I took to heart. I apologize to my male followers in advance if some of this is too much information or ally irrelevant, but on the other hand, you might learn something….your choice about whether to bail here or not…
- Give it 24 hours before responding to deciding something that’s controversial in your life or that makes you upset or mad, etc. First know that I am impatient, impulsive, have a rapier sharp tongue and I’m not afraid to use it….so this one was hard to swallow at first but the first time I consciously pulled back from my knee-jerk response and waited, I was so happy with the result that the lesson stuck after that first time…mostly it did so I wait the 24 hours most of the time….the rest of the time I wait maybe not as long as overnight, and a much smaller fraction of the time I just let loose….
- Things often change in ways that you never imagined or anticipated so hang in there. This sounds a bit like 1 and is definitely related. My example there had to do with something at work and it wasn’t even a situation I was sweating – it was more like shortly after Mom said it to me someone at my current job, who I was SURE was a lifer there, quit to take another job. BAM I never saw that one coming!
- If someone’s totally on your ass about something stupid just go with the flow while they’re telling you about it then proceed as you would have had they not tried to get you do to stupid shit their stupid way. Works like a charm…totally short-circuits their having braced for you to put up a big fight and more than likely they forget about it and leave you the hell alone. This one came up when Mom was describing an actual work scenario of hers. Being the hard-headed young woman I was back then I couldn’t imagine even pretending to swallow some idiot’s bullshit but over time I came around to Mom’s way of thinking.
- Okay, here’s where I might lose the guys….My mother always harped on me to hold my stomach in because it gives you a much better profile and it trains those young tummy muscles to stay taut….yeah, I know that stuff can go way overboard with young girls and body image and the whole thing but I’ve seen myself in pictures, back then and 20 years later, and yeah well let’s just say it’s good to train those tummy muscles from early on and hold your stomach in…more to the point…develop the good posture habit. I once had someone approach me in McDonald’s and ask if I was a dancer…he was referring to the way I was standing and carrying myself….at least that’s what I thought at the time. Who knows, maybe he thought he’d seen me performing at a strip club? Years of being body conscious as a cheerleader — go ahead and scoff, I’m proud of the fact that I was a rah-rah…it was a total blast, especially in college!– and then years of yoga practice trained me to stand tall and keep my shoulders back. ‘Nuff said there.
- “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” Right out of her mouth and needing no explanation.
- “There are no ugly people” Ok, well we all know that’s not exactly true and I’m not talking about the people who are not the nicest to look at, I’m talking about the ones, often very nice to look at, who have no values, no morals, no soul and no conscience. But Mom was really talking about physical appearance and teaching that whole don’t judge a book by it’s cover thing, and to be kind, and about not being shallow, etc. I got it.
- Finally, for those of you who’ve hung in this long, you may be sorry you did…the last thing my mother told me that I’m so happy I listened to WAS….ALWAYS WEAR AN UNDERWIRE BRA TO STAVE OFF SAGGY BOOBS AS LONG AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE (WITHOUT SURGERY). I added the part in parentheses of course but have had no surgery on that particular body part and wear my underwire religiously, even to bed, yes even to bed….and all I can say is I’M SO GLAD I DID!
Looking forward to reconnecting!!!!! xoxoxoxo cj aka The C-Sweet <3