Thanks to Those Who “Get Me”

Can I just tell you that a million (at least a million) thoughts and ideas are swirling about in my head.  So much so that I don’t write because I don’t know where to start….I mentioned that before in a recent blog post.

So I’ve been asking for guidance about where specifically to dig the hook in and get started.  The message I received is to go to my blog stats and remind myself that my “An End to Extreme Cocooning” post about depression was one of my most popular.  Never mind the fact that my post from this past summer’s soccer camp – with the photo of Coach Kurt Gordon in  a clown wig – drew a a large number of viewers over the Thanksgiving holiday – I find this hysterical btw…thanks Coach Kurt.

So given the fact that I’m not interested in making Coach Kurt the Clown the main theme for my writing, we’re back to here…..extreme cocooning.

I have a great deal to say about this because I recently slipped back into the cocoon, all the while denying that anything was out of the ordinary with me.  That’s the tricky part about depression, isn’t it?

So where to start?  I think about things, and think that I should be writing them and then I worry about providing context about what I’m saying and then I just don’t write at all.  Well I’ve been fighting this trend and here I am to say to my small group of followers and anyone else who should find me via searching “cocooning” “depression” (or even Coach Kurt, lol) – that where I want to start is by thanking those very special individuals in my life who just get me….those who don’t judge me by how quickly I return their phone calls or where I live or how I live or the color of my nail polish…..I am so very thankful for the individuals in my life who accept me for who I am without question and give me love and support.

I’ll be moving forward with writing more about Extreme Cocooning, Chestering Up, being more self-aware, how to take the steps you know you should take when you feel like hiding under the covers, etc.

Guidance has informed me that this is what I need to write about.  The thing that I know for certain sure withoutadoubt is that I’m an expert at being me – a non-perfect human being striving to do my best every day….with no interest in pretending that I have no flaws….being genuine.  Who’s with me?

I’d love to hear from you about whether I’m on the mark here or way off base…..

Please leave comments and let me know what you’d like to hear more about from me….I have things to say – it’s all pent up waiting to come out and I need your help to get things flowing…..

Want to hear more about chewing your way out of the extreme cocoon?

More about how to pick yourself up and dust yourself off after a disappointment?

The things that people think about but no one has the ))))s to say out loud?

Let me know and I’ll talk about it here.

And once again – thank you to those who provide unending support without any strings or hidden agendas – those who appreciate me for me….you know that I appreciate you for YOU!

Much love,






  1. I love honesty. One of the things I dislike most about Facebook and similar social media is the pretense or appearance that life is perfect. While positivity is a good thing, if all I hear from someone is the perfection of their life, I simply cannot relate because my life is far from perfect. Thanks for the follow and I look forward to reading more of you. I’d not heard of cocooning before, it is an apt description for depression and withdrawal.

    • You’re not the first person I’ve heard say that the things people put on FB strike them as fake. I don’t know that I didn’t notice it so much or that it doesn’t bother me–I think I give it a subconscious “good for you” and read on because most of what shows up on my news feed from my FB friends are opinions, inspirations, accolades for others, etc. and I chime right in and share. For me, FB and all social media is there for me to use as I wish – what I post may hit someone the wrong way on a given day when they’d otherwise be fine with it. I know if you put it out there it’s out there forever but I also feel that social media postings are so in the moment and there’s so MUCH out there that you just have to take it in and keep moving if it’s not all that egregious. Does that make sense?

  2. Hi,
    I know SusieShy. She is a new subscriber of mine.
    You liked a comment I made on Jason Cushman’s site, and I wanted to come over to introduce myself and say thank you.
    In response to your post. What helps me pick myself up again? I hate to sound like I’m not an empowered woman, but my husband is a great sounding board.
    Work also preoccupies me.
    Nice to meet you.

    • Hi Janice, I thought I’d replied to your comment earlier but it looks like I did not – and I definitely wanted to say that if your husband is a great sounding board and he’s there to listen when you’re feeling overwhelmed then you are the opposite of a “not empowered woman” – you are using the resources and help at your disposal to get to where you want to be…..I kind of hate that it sounds like I’m calling your hubby a resource at your disposal but in context you know what I’m getting at! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts on this!

  3. CJ, that is the advantage of the blogging community- you get unjudging friendships.
    Blogging has been cathartic to me too and a great learning and writing experience. I would like to read about how you stay positive amidst depression- is it good company or a good cry or a good talk or reading or what ?

    • Hi Susie!
      Well it’s a constant battle to stay positive when every little thing that doesn’t go your way seems to overwhelm. It’s a combination of that good cry, hot soak in a tub of bath salts, and pushing myself to re-center through my faith that I’m lovingly protected and have nothing to fear.

      One of the hardest things is that when you’re in that cocoon you avoid that connection with those who might lift your spirits–you’re your own worst enemy. Once you become aware that this is what’s going on though you’re in a better place to chew your way out!

      Have a wonderful day!!

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