Today’s Energy Oracle Card Reading

Working on getting your groove back? Read on…

Working on Getting My Groove Back

I’m trying really hard (because it’s really hard for me right now) to get motivated, get an earlier start each day, adopt a productive morning routine, stay focused, and other good habits for people trying to make a living while launching a business and taking care of a family and the family home while worrying about an aging parent and maintaining a very firm grasp on sanity.

I started the day earlier than I have been starting – not saying exactly what time because it wasn’t all that EARLY, but had a call with my project manager and project team for the work I’m currently doing, already had breakfast and a shower – shortly after dressed, dried hair, called mail order pharmacy about my new prescription (some kind of fish oil supplement – don’t get me started – 180 supply costs $386 – no they don’t take coupons thank you very much – goes toward $3000 family deductible – OUCH!), called sick son out from school, made sick son some breakfast….

Energy Oracle Card Reading

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To get to the point of this post I grabbed my “ENERGY Oracle Cardsby Sandra Anne Taylor deck and spent some time shuffling, asked for 3 cards and this is what popped out of the deck – all at the same time:

1st Card: #41 Archangel Uriel, 7th Chakra

Archangel Uriel, also known as the FIRE OF GOD, wears a brilliant crystal crown “vibrating with a passionate connection to the Divine.  She brings power to the 7th, or Crown, chakra located at the top of your head indicating a time of great intuition and guidance from higher awareness – watch and listen for messages from the Ascended Masters, archangels, guardian angels, or loving friends and family members in spirit.

Affirmation:  “My 7th chakra is open to its perfect, healthy state.  Love & inspiration from Spirit – and my own intuition-flow fully to me now”

2nd Card:#26 Hostilities – Defenses Up, Aggressive Energy

The appearance of the man with the raised sword is alerting us that hostilities toward us are about to be-or have already been-engaged.  This aggressive energy may be verbal or emotional, from someone in your environment being excessively critical, backstabbing, even out-and-out slander and in a more overt, obvious way.  This may be something you’ve already been dealing with or it may be coming but whichever the case may be remember – ALLOWING DISHONORING TREATMENT FROM OTHERS IS AN OPEN INVITATION TO THE UNIVERSE TO SEND YOU MORE – STAND UP FOR YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT.  

Affirmation:  “I am receiving the peaceful, harmonious treatment I deserve in my life.  I set up boundaries, make reasonable requests, and make my expectations clear.

3rd Card: #9 Broken Heart, Grief & Loss

The heart broken open reveals darkness, emptiness, and a grief-filled tear.  Whether this pain is from long ago or more recent, a deep healing is being called for now.

Reclaim your power and your peace of mind by venting your feelings and releasing this person or situation.  Open your heart to the light of Divine love and healing, make self-care a priority, and show compassion toward yourself opening your heart to the true and abiding love you rightly deserve.

Affirmation:  “I will release the pain of the past and live with compassion for myself.  Love HEALS and RENEWS me now.”

The Three Cards Taken Together

On the surface, not so uplifting of a reading, huh?  Went really downhill after the first card, right?  My interpretation is that taken together these 3 cards are telling us that we’re being looked after from the Universe, not only looked after but being sent guidance from the Universe! So if you’re reading this and you’ve been having a rough go of it lately (or the horrible year that I hear 2016 was for many people) this is a time to put yourself and your needs, dreams, and desires FIRST. This of course, involves a bit of contemplation work – dare I say meditation – to delve into what it is that you’re needing, dreaming and desiring – as well as – a look at where you are with respect to your family, social and work circles, specifically has anyone taken to treating you like a doormat?  You know what it means when they do it again and again, right?  You’ve given them permission to treat you badly by letting them get away with it once, maybe twice, perhaps even over and over.  It’s never too late to put your foot down and call an end to it though – do it!  Stand up for yourself!

And I don’t mean in a harsh, combative way, no, especially if you’re unaccustomed to standing up for yourself.  Do it in a calm, matter-of-fact way that conveys the message “That treatment is not acceptable.  From this point forward you will address me and treat me with respect.”

Give yourself permission to love yourself!  Take care of yourself in the manner you deserve to be cared for-that sets the standard for how others are to treat you if they want to interact with you on any level.  Otherwise, please tell them they can go….AWAY!

Have you been putting off going to the doctor or doctors for annual check-ups? Pick up the phone and make those appointments.  Are you doing your best to eat a diet that’s healthy for you and getting enough sleep?  When’s the last time you had a good haircut?  Do you have clothes that need to go to the drycleaners?  Plants that need watering?

Sister Mary Chardonnay recommends loving yourself a little today and every day by doing any or all of the following:

  • Get to the doctor, the ob-gyn, the ophthalmologist, the dentist
  • Make a hair, nail, eyebrow wax, massage appointment – or schedule a spa day!
  • Take 15 minutes per day to clear clutter – file, put away, throw away
  • Buy yourself a bunch of flowers
  • Light a candle in your favorite scent – my faves are lavender and vanilla!
  • Diffuse some aromatic oil to lift your spirits – lemon, spearmint, eucalyptus – FRESH!
  • Search YouTube or i♥Radio, Pandora, etc. for music playlists to lift your spirits, start the day energetically, mood music, binaural beats for positivity – there’s so much out there – you don’t have to love the music or listen to it all day but while you’re doing your morning routine it will elevate your mood
  • Breathe, remember to breathe!  If you’re holding your breath right now because you’re stressed out STOP what you’re doing.  Sit up straight and fill those lungs to capacity with some OXYGEN, in through the nose and out through the mouth baby – TEN TIMES- and see how much better you feel

Namaste, Bright Blessings and Loving Thoughts

cj

Programmed (Not) to Receive

Thoughts on why some people refuse the help of others and the effects on would-be helpers

Apologies to the Eagles for coopting this line from Hotel California and taking poetic license with it on top….

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Difficulty with Accepting Help

I’d promised to write about the difficulty many (some would say most) people have with receiving vs. giving and something about this concept has been wriggling around in the back of my mind so here it is….it’s all about CONTROL. 

“People are uncomfortable with, or out-and-out refuse help because they want to CONTROL things. ”  You may quote me….

The Problem with Refusing Help

Why should it matter to the rest of us that people we could and would otherwise help refuse to ask us for our help and refuse that help if we offer it?  It matters because it’s in our human nature to want to be of service.  Helping others brings about blessings on the giver.  The denial of an offer of help is the denial of the opportunity for someone else to receive grace.

And if that’s not a compelling enough reason, here’s another.  There comes a point, maybe several points over the course, in a person’s life when he or she is not in a position to negotiate a n y t h i n g.  It’s at those times when you’re willingly or unwillingly, consciously or unconsciously LEAVING IT IN GOD’S HANDS.  To be clear, whether or not you personally believe in God you are by default, leaving it in His hands when you’re in a position of powerlessness.  Because there IS a God.  Period.

Problem for Would-Be Helpers

The ones surrounding a person in need of, but refusing, help are put in a powerless position as well.  We can see with our eyes and hear with our ears and just know from experience (and rational thinking) that someone needs help but they won’t acknowledge it, definitely aren’t asking for it, and vehemently refuse it when it’s offered.

In addition to the frustration that comes along with being put in this position there’s a level of anxiety that comes from knowing that when (not if, but when) things become critical or disaster strikes you’re on the hook for cleaning up the mess.  AND, not only cleaning up the mess but having to do so within a tight schedule and with limited resources.  Often the rescue is so much more costly, time-consuming, possibly heart-wrenching, and definitely a pain in the ass than giving the help would have been…think about it help-refusers.  This puts you in the unattractive position of being SELFISH when here you thought you were avoiding putting someone else out.  It’s true.

Advice for Some Would-Be Helpers

You too need to learn to leave it in God’s hands and this is vastly more difficult than it sounds, yet it’s absolutely essential.  Carrying around the responsibility for changing someone who refuses to change or refuses to be helped is robbing you of your own life.  Let me repeat that–If you spend all of your waking hours including staying up all night worrying about someone else you are sabotaging your own life.  You need to do the best you can then Let It Go.  To paraphrase an Al-Anon Recovery Slogan, “You can’t.  God Can.  Let Him.**with compliments to Lee Self, Keynote Speaker at the DC High Tech Prayer Breakfast.  You’ll be hearing more from me about this annual event.

May God Bless You!

Let All You Do

::Teaser Alert::

On special request I’ll be continuing along the same lines of giving, receiving, gratitude, appreciation, and related topics tomorrow with….

Why is it so difficult for some people to receive from others?

Giving vs. Receiving

The holiday season is upon us once again.  Hearing “I can’t believe next week is Thanksgiving” has become as routine as “Is it hot enough for ya?”  As I wrote last year, the holiday season was different from any other I’d experienced in my adult life — very emotional, and special nonetheless.

Over the weekend I was part of a conversation about whether it’s better to give than to receive and I thought I’d share some of those thoughts here.

Is it better to give than to receive?

Of course!

Why is it better to give than to receive?

This is a deep question and by that I mean that it can be answered from a number of different perspectives….spiritual, health, overall happiness, etc.  

So I repeat:  Why is it better to give than to receive?

Because Jesus said so.  And for some of us that’s all we need, right?  But seriously, that doesn’t make for a robust discussion on this topic so just to clarify what He actually said–

In Acts 20:35 Jesus said:  “In everything I showed you that by working hard in this manner you must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

Then the question becomes this “Is being more blessed better than receiving, receiving what?  Let’s just say better than receiving anything at all.

Blessed adjective [bles-id; or blest] – the definition in this context is something like…..

divinely or supremely favored; fortunate, blissfully happy or contented; bringing happiness and thankfulness

As for me, I would prefer to be blissfully happy by giving than to be pleased with something I received. But this opens up another whole subject and that is GRATITUDE because when we RECEIVE something we sorely need there is a certain feeling about that as well….that’s where the bringing happiness and thankfulness comes in.

So in essence, it’s better (because it’s more blessed) to be blissfully happy or contented from being the giver than to experience happiness and thankfulness from receiving?  I’m only further convincing myself that yes it IS better to give than to receive.

But seriously, enough about Jesus, WHY?

It’s better to give than to receive because giving builds social connections and strengthens existing ones. There are many things written about giving, as in of oneself by volunteering, being healthy–and that gets into some deeper study and findings, (told ya this was a deep one) but to keep it simple, I like the following…

The Dalai Lama observes that happiness does not come from material things but rather from a deep, genuine concern for others’ happiness. In fact, the Dalai Lama contends that focusing on one’s own needs instead of others’ results in negative emotions that prevent true and lasting happiness for the self.

I agree with the Dalai Lama!

Are you happier when you give or when you receive?

 

Can’t Give It Away

On Following Up

For those of you who are salespeople, marketers, networkers –anyone trying to get others interested in what you’re selling or promoting or maybe a charity you’re supporting you know about the need to make contact and then follow up.  Many have written on this topic and it’s not my attention here to add to that body of work here but you know me, I like to share my experiences.

What I Was Giving Away

Food.  Not a free lunch, a free dinner.  My family’s been getting Hello Fresh for 3 weeks now and had the opportunity to give away a free meal to 4 friends so they could try it.  The names and email addresses were submitted at the start of this week and as of the end of the week no one had claimed their meal.

And the Point Is

No the point isn’t that I have a bunch of ungrateful, unappreciative friends.  Actually, it turns out that they probably never got the email.  The point is that it just made me think that we’re all so busy that often we don’t get to the things that we’re actually interested in and wanting to do.  Think about how many things pass before your eyes or through your fingers that you mean to address at the next possible opportunity–and never get around to it.

What I’m Trying To Say

My point is to suggest that many of us (me included and I remind myself often) need to take periodic time outs to breathe.  And then after we breathe we can take just 15 minutes and get one or more little things that we’ve been meaning to attend to, take care of, clear out, drop off, put in the mail–DONE.  How many of those things do you have hanging around?  What would it feel like to get one or more checked off this list?  I know I feel a little bit liberated, a bit more unencumbered, back in charge.

Back to the Sales Reference

The initial connection I made about this was that often we who are selling, promoting, soliciting have to talk ourselves into following up because we don’t want to appear pushy or imposing.  My point is that the threshold for being pushing or imposing on others is often much higher than we’re imagining or, in my own case, overthinking it.

I guess it all comes back to the concept of being present, being in the moment and just reaching out to follow up, getting a few little things done, or simply giving away a little kindness each day.

What are your thoughts?  I’d love to hear from you, even if you’re just curious about our Hello Fresh experience!

And for those who enjoy a musical association with a topic I give you the RHCP

Today is the First Day

Have you thought lately about where your life’s going? How’s that looking for you? Haven’t thought about it? Here’s something to get you started….

What is this thing called L….I…..F……E?

Sometimes it’s fun to do a word association by making note of anything that pops into your head with a particular word or version of a particular word.  Like this–

Get a life!

Live your life!

You only get 1 life to live!

Change your life!

Reform your life!

Transform your life!

Save a life!

Give the gift of life!

Life begins at conception.

What Does It Mean?

And then you ask yourself, “What does it all mean, this thing called life? Can I really make a difference in anyone’s life?  in my own life?  Why am I not doing it?  Am I afraid to try?  What am I really afraid of?  What’s my true life purpose?  Wait, I hear a tiny voice that’s getting louder and LOUDER, and it’s saying,

“Look for the answer WITHIN yourself!”

Just Keep Swimming!

Wow–I’ve been scared, frightened to death really–positively CLUELESS abut why I haven’t been doing  the things I KNOW I NEED to get where I want to go.  Anyone else feel that way?  Now or in the past?  It scares you even more when you get as far as realizing you’re in the grip of something but you haven’t yet identified it.

What is this something?  Is it depression?  Mid-life crisis? An epiphany in the making?

What I think is that it’s a mixture of these and other things that’s unique to each person experiencing it.  So what happens on breakthrough day?  Does it suddenly become easier?

No, it doesn’t.  It’s not like that; not like flipping a switch.  What it does mean is that you’ve been pushing further each day and you’ve finally taken yourself just far enough out of “it” to find firm footing on THE OTHER SIDE OF IT. So now what?

Here’s What

  1. Believe all the good stuff–the positive affirmations, motivational speeches, guided meditations, all of it!
  2. Believe in YOURSELF!

  3. Go For It!

  4. YOU’VE GOT THIS!

  5. Yes, you DO!

Won’t you please leave some comments to let us all know where you are and how it’s all turning out?

xo

cj

 

New Business/New Website

Have a minute?  If so, I invite you to check out the recently launched website for my new small business advisory & management consulting business called C Sweet Solutions.

This has all been a while in the making and I’ve been devoting time I didn’t even know I had to getting things started, attending a certification training, networking my brains out (what little there was left if now positively gone), and trying to track it all to be sure I’m moving in the right direction.

That’s right – and my various nannies, housekeepers, personal chefs, chauffeurs, laundresses, and personal assistants have been keeping me and my family and the household together…..NOT!

Hobbies?  Who has time for hobbies?

Blogging?  Who has time for blogging?

Bathing? Who has time….just kidding there – always time for a quick shower – personal hygiene is SACRED!

Please leave me a comment and let me know if you’re interested in hearing more about the launch of C Sweet Solutions here on my personal blog and if you’re interested from a business standpoint, I will be blogging eventually over on the company website as well.

As always your general comments and observations are much appreciated too!

Bye for now,

cj