New Business/New Website

Have a minute?  If so, I invite you to check out the recently launched website for my new small business advisory & management consulting business called C Sweet Solutions.

This has all been a while in the making and I’ve been devoting time I didn’t even know I had to getting things started, attending a certification training, networking my brains out (what little there was left if now positively gone), and trying to track it all to be sure I’m moving in the right direction.

That’s right – and my various nannies, housekeepers, personal chefs, chauffeurs, laundresses, and personal assistants have been keeping me and my family and the household together…..NOT!

Hobbies?  Who has time for hobbies?

Blogging?  Who has time for blogging?

Bathing? Who has time….just kidding there – always time for a quick shower – personal hygiene is SACRED!

Please leave me a comment and let me know if you’re interested in hearing more about the launch of C Sweet Solutions here on my personal blog and if you’re interested from a business standpoint, I will be blogging eventually over on the company website as well.

As always your general comments and observations are much appreciated too!

Bye for now,



Anxiety and me…and some help…. — HarsH ReaLiTy

Originally posted on toni1964blog: A few months ago I was posting about my anxiety as usual and mentioned a book I read that I carried around for years. I still carry it, I just couldn’t find it because we moved and everything was such a mess. I found it finally and it has been…

via Anxiety and me…and some help…. — HarsH ReaLiTy

7 Things My Mom Told Me

that I’m so glad I listened to…

It’s been 4 months since my last post…I might as well consider myself (and this blog) extinct like the dinosaurs, right?  But that’s not my style…okay it’s my style to go off radar but it’s also my style to reappear with no notice whatsoever and guess what?

I’m Baaaaaack….

No, I’m not back from rehab, Sillies, I’m back here on “Coming at you Live from the C-Sweet” to let you know I’m still alive and kicking and what I’ve been up to over the last 4 months.

The main thing is that I did go away (no, NOT to rehab!) to a small business advisory certification training and I’ve officially launched my new consulting practice “C Sweet Solutions”….Solutions for the C-Suite.  So I’ve spent the rest of the time getting busy networking, prospecting, doing business development type stuff and all the rest.

Right now I’m co-branding my services with the organization that sponsored by training and certification…until I work up to a new website for C Sweet Solutions.

But that business talk isn’t way you find me so entertaining and followed this blog, etc. so of course I have something else to tell you about, and that is…

I was thinking about my relationship with my loving mother and how I think I accepted the fact that she was (generally) always right about stuff she told me growing up and so I decided to tell you about some of the things my mom told me that I’m glad I took to heart.  I apologize to my male followers in advance if some of this is too much information or ally irrelevant, but on the other hand, you might learn something….your choice about whether to bail here or not…

Here goes:

  1. Give it 24 hours before responding to deciding something that’s controversial in your life or that makes you upset or mad, etc.  First know that I am impatient, impulsive, have a rapier sharp tongue and I’m not afraid to use it….so this one was hard to swallow at first but the first time I consciously pulled back from my knee-jerk response and waited, I was so happy with the result that the lesson stuck after that first time…mostly it did so I wait the 24 hours most of the time….the rest of the time I wait maybe not as long as overnight, and a much smaller fraction of the time I just let loose….
  2.  Things often change in ways that you never imagined or anticipated so hang in there.  This sounds a bit like 1 and is definitely related.  My example there had to do with something at work and it wasn’t even a situation I was sweating – it was more like shortly after Mom said it to me someone at my current job, who I was SURE was a lifer there, quit to take another job.  BAM I never saw that one coming!
  3. If someone’s totally on your ass about something stupid just go with the flow while they’re telling you about it then proceed as you would have had they not tried to get you do to stupid shit their stupid way.  Works like a charm…totally short-circuits their having braced for you to put up a big fight and more than likely they forget about it and leave you the hell alone.  This one came up when Mom was describing an actual work scenario of hers.  Being the hard-headed young woman I was back then I couldn’t imagine even pretending to swallow some idiot’s bullshit but over time I came around to Mom’s way of thinking.
  4.  Okay, here’s where I might lose the guys….My mother always harped on me to hold my stomach in because it gives you a much better profile and it trains those young tummy muscles to stay taut….yeah, I know that stuff can go way overboard with young girls and body image and the whole thing but I’ve seen myself in pictures, back then and 20 years later, and yeah well let’s just say it’s good to train those tummy muscles from early on and hold your stomach in…more to the point…develop the good posture habit.  I once had someone approach me in McDonald’s and ask if I was a dancer…he was referring to the way I was standing and carrying myself….at least that’s what I thought at the time.  Who knows, maybe he thought he’d seen me performing at a strip club?  Years of being body conscious as a cheerleader — go ahead and scoff, I’m proud of the fact that I was a rah-rah…it was a total blast, especially in college!– and then years of yoga practice trained me to stand tall and keep my shoulders back.  ‘Nuff said there.
  5. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”  Right out of her mouth and needing no explanation.
  6. “There are no ugly people” Ok, well we all know that’s not exactly true and I’m not talking about the people who are not the nicest to look at, I’m talking about the ones, often very nice to look at, who have no values, no morals, no soul and no conscience.  But Mom was really talking about physical appearance and teaching that whole don’t judge a book by it’s cover thing, and to be kind, and about not being shallow, etc.  I got it.
  7. Finally, for those of you who’ve hung in this long, you may be sorry you did…the last thing my mother told me that I’m so happy I listened to WAS….ALWAYS WEAR AN UNDERWIRE BRA TO STAVE OFF SAGGY BOOBS AS LONG AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE (WITHOUT SURGERY).  I added the part in parentheses of course but have had no surgery on that particular body part and wear my underwire religiously, even to bed, yes even to bed….and all I can say is I’M SO GLAD I DID!


Looking forward to reconnecting!!!!!  xoxoxoxo  cj aka The C-Sweet❤


Abstractions – More New Paintings

Lots of balls in the air but progress being made!!

Original Artwork at Affordable Prices

Still busy painting (and not writing much), still refining my photography technique for listing photos, still planning to pull everything together on my art website but I’ve managed to list a number of new paintings recently in my Etsy Shop:  TheCSweetShoppe


If You Love the Design But Not For Your Wall

One of the next thing I’ll be doing is making some of the paintings available as framed art prints , throw pillows, greeting cards, cell phone cases, and more on The C-Sweet on Society6

For example:


I feel as though I’m walking down the road while spinning plates on a stick and it’s really slow going but progress is being made!

****Featured image from Plate Spinning Dog



New Paintings Listed in My Etsy Shop

Finally put down the brush and uploaded the images!


One of the things I find challenging is managing the full-spectrum of the work that I do.  By that I mean working on my paintings or painted furniture, taking high quality photos of each item to post for sale, writing up the descriptions and activating the listings on Etsy, Facebook, Craigslist, my art website, etc.

Well lately I’ve been painting up a storm and have just listed most but not all of my recent works in my Etsy Shop.  Fortunately, through the ability to link social media I got to crosspost on Pinterest with notices to Facebook and Twitter at the same time.

I really need to get my art website up to snuff and running but I’ve been having too much fun throwing paint around!!!  With this good start posting 9 new paintings on Etsy just now I’m inspired to get the rest listed once and for all – so watch for 4 additional new paintings plus listings from my pod series of paintings done earlier this year.


I’ve Been Busy…

Check out cottage chic handpainted furniture …

Just not with blogging….what’s had most of my attention these past weeks (besides travel soccer – thank you FC Virginia!) is PAINTING, PAINTING, PAINTING!

Painting what, you say?  Painting furniture.  I sold my first piece, an adorable little side table that I would have loved to keep for myself – but alas, I’m in use it or lose it mode and don’t have an immediate spot for it.  Here it is if you’re into “Cottage Chic”:clematis table 1

And if you’re into a big more daring, bold pops of color I give you my Doodle Pattern Chair currently listed on Craigslist (northern Virginia) and my Etsy Shop CJ’s Funky Painted Chair and here she is:

Doodle chair 1

An ADDiva Off Meds: The Glass Cocoon

Who are we really fooling when we live in denial?

Most folks who are struggling with situations or with life in general know where to look for inspiring stories of folks who made it through a rough patch and conquered the problem, the demon, the setback, the misfortune.  The focus being on the ultimate achievement of some success.

How about when the achievement is getting something accomplished in a single day…maybe just a single thing in a single day?  A little while ago I realized that despite my busting loose with my blog posting and focus on finding a full-time job and progress on getting the house de-cluttered I’d slipped back into my cocoon and if you’d asked me before I had the revelation, I’d have absolutely denied it.  That’s how I came up with the descriptor:  Glass Cocoon.  In the glass cocoon you feel that you’re on track and moving things along but the fact is that you’ve slipped back into some of the perfection/procrastination behaviors and are letting days go by without hitting any of your marks or checking anything off your “list”.

All I know is that I realized I was in there, I’ve emerged once again, and in forward motion yet again.  I closed the door behind me when I left in the hope of hindering a return to there anytime soon but it’s probably inevitable and the best I can do is recognize it sooner and hope out earlier next time and do better the time after that….the thing is that I’ve gotten even better than I had been about keeping up the facade that things are running smoothly and getting done and all is well. This is not a good thing because the one I’m fooling with all that smoke and mirrors nonsense is ME.