7 Things My Mom Told Me

that I’m so glad I listened to…

It’s been 4 months since my last post…I might as well consider myself (and this blog) extinct like the dinosaurs, right?  But that’s not my style…okay it’s my style to go off radar but it’s also my style to reappear with no notice whatsoever and guess what?

I’m Baaaaaack….

No, I’m not back from rehab, Sillies, I’m back here on “Coming at you Live from the C-Sweet” to let you know I’m still alive and kicking and what I’ve been up to over the last 4 months.

The main thing is that I did go away (no, NOT to rehab!) to a small business advisory certification training and I’ve officially launched my new consulting practice “C Sweet Solutions”….Solutions for the C-Suite.  So I’ve spent the rest of the time getting busy networking, prospecting, doing business development type stuff and all the rest.

Right now I’m co-branding my services with the organization that sponsored by training and certification…until I work up to a new website for C Sweet Solutions.

But that business talk isn’t way you find me so entertaining and followed this blog, etc. so of course I have something else to tell you about, and that is…

I was thinking about my relationship with my loving mother and how I think I accepted the fact that she was (generally) always right about stuff she told me growing up and so I decided to tell you about some of the things my mom told me that I’m glad I took to heart.  I apologize to my male followers in advance if some of this is too much information or ally irrelevant, but on the other hand, you might learn something….your choice about whether to bail here or not…

Here goes:

  1. Give it 24 hours before responding to deciding something that’s controversial in your life or that makes you upset or mad, etc.  First know that I am impatient, impulsive, have a rapier sharp tongue and I’m not afraid to use it….so this one was hard to swallow at first but the first time I consciously pulled back from my knee-jerk response and waited, I was so happy with the result that the lesson stuck after that first time…mostly it did so I wait the 24 hours most of the time….the rest of the time I wait maybe not as long as overnight, and a much smaller fraction of the time I just let loose….
  2.  Things often change in ways that you never imagined or anticipated so hang in there.  This sounds a bit like 1 and is definitely related.  My example there had to do with something at work and it wasn’t even a situation I was sweating – it was more like shortly after Mom said it to me someone at my current job, who I was SURE was a lifer there, quit to take another job.  BAM I never saw that one coming!
  3. If someone’s totally on your ass about something stupid just go with the flow while they’re telling you about it then proceed as you would have had they not tried to get you do to stupid shit their stupid way.  Works like a charm…totally short-circuits their having braced for you to put up a big fight and more than likely they forget about it and leave you the hell alone.  This one came up when Mom was describing an actual work scenario of hers.  Being the hard-headed young woman I was back then I couldn’t imagine even pretending to swallow some idiot’s bullshit but over time I came around to Mom’s way of thinking.
  4.  Okay, here’s where I might lose the guys….My mother always harped on me to hold my stomach in because it gives you a much better profile and it trains those young tummy muscles to stay taut….yeah, I know that stuff can go way overboard with young girls and body image and the whole thing but I’ve seen myself in pictures, back then and 20 years later, and yeah well let’s just say it’s good to train those tummy muscles from early on and hold your stomach in…more to the point…develop the good posture habit.  I once had someone approach me in McDonald’s and ask if I was a dancer…he was referring to the way I was standing and carrying myself….at least that’s what I thought at the time.  Who knows, maybe he thought he’d seen me performing at a strip club?  Years of being body conscious as a cheerleader — go ahead and scoff, I’m proud of the fact that I was a rah-rah…it was a total blast, especially in college!– and then years of yoga practice trained me to stand tall and keep my shoulders back.  ‘Nuff said there.
  5. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”  Right out of her mouth and needing no explanation.
  6. “There are no ugly people” Ok, well we all know that’s not exactly true and I’m not talking about the people who are not the nicest to look at, I’m talking about the ones, often very nice to look at, who have no values, no morals, no soul and no conscience.  But Mom was really talking about physical appearance and teaching that whole don’t judge a book by it’s cover thing, and to be kind, and about not being shallow, etc.  I got it.
  7. Finally, for those of you who’ve hung in this long, you may be sorry you did…the last thing my mother told me that I’m so happy I listened to WAS….ALWAYS WEAR AN UNDERWIRE BRA TO STAVE OFF SAGGY BOOBS AS LONG AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE (WITHOUT SURGERY).  I added the part in parentheses of course but have had no surgery on that particular body part and wear my underwire religiously, even to bed, yes even to bed….and all I can say is I’M SO GLAD I DID!


Looking forward to reconnecting!!!!!  xoxoxoxo  cj aka The C-Sweet❤


Abstractions – More New Paintings

Lots of balls in the air but progress being made!!

Original Artwork at Affordable Prices

Still busy painting (and not writing much), still refining my photography technique for listing photos, still planning to pull everything together on my art website but I’ve managed to list a number of new paintings recently in my Etsy Shop:  TheCSweetShoppe


If You Love the Design But Not For Your Wall

One of the next thing I’ll be doing is making some of the paintings available as framed art prints , throw pillows, greeting cards, cell phone cases, and more on The C-Sweet on Society6

For example:


I feel as though I’m walking down the road while spinning plates on a stick and it’s really slow going but progress is being made!

****Featured image from Plate Spinning Dog



New Paintings Listed in My Etsy Shop

Finally put down the brush and uploaded the images!


One of the things I find challenging is managing the full-spectrum of the work that I do.  By that I mean working on my paintings or painted furniture, taking high quality photos of each item to post for sale, writing up the descriptions and activating the listings on Etsy, Facebook, Craigslist, my art website, etc.

Well lately I’ve been painting up a storm and have just listed most but not all of my recent works in my Etsy Shop.  Fortunately, through the ability to link social media I got to crosspost on Pinterest with notices to Facebook and Twitter at the same time.

I really need to get my art website up to snuff and running but I’ve been having too much fun throwing paint around!!!  With this good start posting 9 new paintings on Etsy just now I’m inspired to get the rest listed once and for all – so watch for 4 additional new paintings plus listings from my pod series of paintings done earlier this year.


I’ve Been Busy…

Check out cottage chic handpainted furniture …

Just not with blogging….what’s had most of my attention these past weeks (besides travel soccer – thank you FC Virginia!) is PAINTING, PAINTING, PAINTING!

Painting what, you say?  Painting furniture.  I sold my first piece, an adorable little side table that I would have loved to keep for myself – but alas, I’m in use it or lose it mode and don’t have an immediate spot for it.  Here it is if you’re into “Cottage Chic”:clematis table 1

And if you’re into a big more daring, bold pops of color I give you my Doodle Pattern Chair currently listed on Craigslist (northern Virginia) and my Etsy Shop CJ’s Funky Painted Chair and here she is:

Doodle chair 1

An ADDiva Off Meds: The Glass Cocoon

Who are we really fooling when we live in denial?

Most folks who are struggling with situations or with life in general know where to look for inspiring stories of folks who made it through a rough patch and conquered the problem, the demon, the setback, the misfortune.  The focus being on the ultimate achievement of some success.

How about when the achievement is getting something accomplished in a single day…maybe just a single thing in a single day?  A little while ago I realized that despite my busting loose with my blog posting and focus on finding a full-time job and progress on getting the house de-cluttered I’d slipped back into my cocoon and if you’d asked me before I had the revelation, I’d have absolutely denied it.  That’s how I came up with the descriptor:  Glass Cocoon.  In the glass cocoon you feel that you’re on track and moving things along but the fact is that you’ve slipped back into some of the perfection/procrastination behaviors and are letting days go by without hitting any of your marks or checking anything off your “list”.

All I know is that I realized I was in there, I’ve emerged once again, and in forward motion yet again.  I closed the door behind me when I left in the hope of hindering a return to there anytime soon but it’s probably inevitable and the best I can do is recognize it sooner and hope out earlier next time and do better the time after that….the thing is that I’ve gotten even better than I had been about keeping up the facade that things are running smoothly and getting done and all is well. This is not a good thing because the one I’m fooling with all that smoke and mirrors nonsense is ME.

What’s in the (Oracle) Cards Today?

Crazy how difficult it can be to ask for help, isn’t it?


Yes, I pulled these cards for a reading yesterday, on Tarot Tuesday but I’m not pretending I wrote this up yesterday and never hit publish.  I’m coming clean with my procrastination/perfection issue (yet again) and moving forward…..

The Cards

Before drawing these cards from the Archangel Deck (Doreen Virtue), I asked my angels and guides for a specific message for that day and here’s what they sent me for a 3 card spread (the history, the current, the ongoing) in which I added cards from the “Whispers of Love” deck–

The Reading

I)  Indigo and Crystal Children – Archangel Metatron:  “You have a bond with children.  In particular, you can help children who are sensitive.”   For me personally, this message is reaffirmation that my most important role in life right now is Mother, and my children and their mental, physical, and spiritual well-being remains my top priority.

The Whispers deck gave up the “Ask for Help”, #14 card: “What is it you really need help with?  Be willing to allow yourself the support you need.”  This question may not be all that easy to answer, right?  If you knew exactly what it was you should be asking for it’d be a lot easier to ask for the right help at the right time.

II) Spread your Wings! – Archangel Ariel: “Do not hold back right now.  The timing is perfect, and you are ready to soar!” The thing I’ve been drawn to working on the most these days is my art – I’ve been painting every chance I get, nearly every day if not every day – and I find that if I make time for creative endeavors it energizes me to take care of the rest of the things that need my attention. I’ve been quite prolific over the past couple of days with what I’m calling my Easter 2016 Series, consisting of angel paintings, one of Jesus on the cross (very abstract) and the latest I finished last night with a Sacred Heart of Jesus theme.

From the Whispers deck:  “Choose Love”, #21 card: “You always have a choice as to what you should do.”  I couldn’t agree more!  Many times we feel backed into a corner but we always have options, particularly options about how to react to situations which often dictates our overall frame of mind and the things we do about whatever it is we’re facing.

III) Hello from Heaven – Archangel Azrael: “Your loved ones in Heaven are doing fine.  Let go of worries, and feel their loving blessings.” This one made me cry – I really felt it – have been thinking about my recently passed away godfather/uncle (it’s been 6 months!!!) and the fact that I’m still in a state of somewhat disbelief that he’s gone. Actually, just the “Hello from Heaven” was a really welcome message on this day.

Whispers then told me: “Love Who You Are”, #8 card: “You are a Divine and wonderful person deserving all of the wonderful things that life has to offer.” Bottom line (for me):  KEEP THE FAITH!

Sacred Heart of Jesus
The Sacred Heart of Jesus




ADD Ramble About Last Thursday

It was the day after I did my webinar….that’s usually a sigh of relief day and this one was no different.  I woke up about the usual time and interacted with the kids as they got themselves ready for school….bless their little hearts, they do that all by themselves since back in the day when Mom had already left for work by the time they got out of bed….

Before going downstairs to drink my hot water, lemon slice, apple cider vinegar elixir I shuffled around with my Archangel Oracle Card deck and pulled a card….got called downstairs for something ….got involved in something else – dust busting around my Boston Fern Project, replied to an email, thought about calling two of my mentors to update them on the career front, my latest art work-in-progress caught my eye and I decided to work on that for a little while then commence recruiting activities….went back upstairs for my phone and headset and remembered I’d drawn the Archangel card….I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried…this is an actual ADD morning in my life….Yes I drank my elixir, yes I chased it with a black coffee, yes I painted for a while, no, I didn’t get much recruiting done and I can’t recall what exactly got me off that track but here I am to tell you about that card….

I started out very focused and asked the archangels to let me know the most important thing I should focus on for the day and Archangel Sandalphon exclaims “Victory!  Your prayers have been heard and answered.  Have faith.”

“You deserve this time of victory.  Your unwavering focus and dedicating have resulted in blissful manifestation.  Peace and pleasant feelings are your right now.  (Hello!)  Let your focus be on this present moment, and savor each feeling and experience fully.  Know that the future is taken care of in a positive way as you allow yourself to enjoy the present moment.  Feel good about who you are and know that your success benefits others…..

Um, excuse me Archangel Sandalphon…Citibank has been calling and they’d like to know exactly how my success is going to benefit them in the form of a payment….

Background on working with Archangel Sandalphon – helps you speak your truth openly in a way that benefits everyone.  He assists you in living in integrity with your spiritual gifts of prophecy, healing and manifestation fully awakened.

I went a step further and consulting my Angel Numbers Guide about a number from my past that I’ve begun using lately. Without going into detail about my specific number I wanted to tell you that the meaning is that I am being assisted in staying positive in my endeavors and supported by God and the ascended masters in confidently following my dreams.  The particular number combo reduces to the number 7 which tells me that I’m on the right path and the outcome will exceed my expectations.  As well, the #7 is a sign that Divine magic is supporting me and opening doors of opportunity….well as my previous post indicated, I’m getting inquiries related to work opportunities that I never even solicited….people are finding me based on the information and the energy I’ve put out there about myself and what I do….These things are coming full circle.  I don’t know about you but I’m very excited about what the future holds….Thank you Archangel Sandalphon!